Over four years ago, I was asked to describe my relationship with JE as if describing it to our children, and I summed it up with this story:
We ate dinner at Sweet Tomatoes one evening in 2011. A transcript of our conversation would have read like playful children dined together, as well as two very serious adults. At one point, we talked about how the muffin top was the best part of the muffin.
Later, your appa picked up a blueberry muffin for us to share. I thought he would use his knife to cut the muffin in half, but with one swift motion he popped off the entire muffin top and handed it to me.
I didn’t know what to do, so I took it, a little stunned. Thoughts like, Oh, shouldn’t we share this? Do you want half of this? Didn’t you just say this was your favorite part, too? came to mind. But I just watched as he quietly and happily ate the bottom part of the muffin.
What is our relationship like?
Your dad giving me the muffin top. Me, melting.
Which is why this next recent story is especially dear to me.
Last Saturday, JE was gone for men’s retreat, so the kids and I had a special morning at Starbucks. We split a blueberry muffin three ways, and in his haste and excitement, Pup took a bite and then dropped the rest on the floor.
His face crinkled into a cry.
Then Cub popped off the top of his muffin — the best part with all the blueberries and sugar crystals — and handed it to Pup. The piece he gave Pup was almost his entire portion, and he happily started eating the little he had left without a word.
I think I almost cried myself. As if I didn’t already think he was so much like his dad, he repeated history in almost the same, unassuming way.